In 2019, the update to the title slide of this post has become the biggest change in my life because of mitohacks I have done on 5G over the last 2 years. The updated picture for 2019 is contained above too. For the reasons why the change occured you’ll have to wait until my talk in Poland at the Polish Health Summit is released to the public.
7 Signs of a Genuine kinship is found in My Wisdom of the Circle of Six
How do you really value yourself? To say you have no choice in life is to relieve yourself of responsibility.
It is one thing to lose people you love as your journey unfolds. It is another to lose yourself in the very same process. There is a greater loss of time in the world. Realize that shit is the real talk your life needs daily.
Focus on those that listen…ignore the rest. Some will come around…some won’t
If you want extraordinary results, you need to narrow your focus on the things that matter and eliminate the unnecessary.
1. They stick with you NO MATTER WHAT.
True friends stick with you no matter what. I hear stories about friends falling out with one another because one doesn’t like the other’s new boyfriend and other trivial things.
That doesn’t matter to true friends. They stick with you through thick and thin.
2. They accept you and they NEVER JUDGE YOU.
True friends, like true lovers, won’t try to change the person you are. If you want to change, they have your back, and they’re sure to let you know their opinions, but they accept you for who you are. No strings attached. A great friend can tell you things yo cannot tell yourself.
3. They celebrate you in good times and bad.
They aren’t jealous of you. Instead, they celebrate you. Big promotion at work? A new relationship? Party! Third date went well? How about a glass of wine to celebrate? Your true friends won’t feel resentment for what you have going on for you when your winning and thriving.
4. They reinvigorate you and spark you to thrive.
Some “friends” we walk away from feeling totally drained. They’re negative Nancy types. True friends leave you feeling energized and invigorated, not tired and sapped of your energy. You need to cut energy vampires and those who cannot reason well.
5. They reach out to you and this is why you’ll have them pack your parachute
This is a key factor. A true friend isn’t a friend you’re constantly having to track down. True friends seek you out year after year without prompting to sample your current awesomeness. They make time in their busy lives to hang out with you. Nothing remains idle in life and thrives. This is double true with friends in your circle of six. Life needs a moving force to prevent the devastating effects of stagnancy. You should become this forceas the gatekeeper of your domain. That is why all life employs change and adaptability. This is why my circle of six gateway has a revolving door at the entrance. No one should feel comfortable with you too long. Your waves should hit them chronically to force adaptability and they should crave it.
6. They don’t speak talk trash. They speak at you.
True friends don’t talk about you behind your back. They don’t cattily gossip and spread rumors.
If they have something to say to you, they say it to your face. They won’t talk about you to anyone in a way that they wouldn’t talk directly to you.
Do you want to be in your own story or on the outside writing about it? Everyone battles fear and uncertainty every day. However, the only failure in life is believing that your value relies on other people’s approval or resources. The reality is this: When you are living your authentic self and not how people want you to act, then you are free to use the full spectrum of your creativity and gifts. People don’t need resources to get out of any life situation. They need creativity to create resources. When you realize that, becoming stuck is impossible.
If they want to talk shit about you, let them. Never let anyone rent space in your head by caring one bit about their opinion. Once they trash talk you cut them from your life and make them feel what life is like without you in it.
7. They don’t get possessive, they want you to thrive.
If you’ve got new friends and lovers in your life, they don’t get possessive. They always give the space you need and are there when you want to do stuff. They want you to dominate and create your happiness and celebrate with you as you break glass ceilings..
SUMMARY OF HOW FRIENDS MAKE OR BREAK US IN RECOVERY
Your circle is your chemotherapy. Toxic relationships are just like any other disease. The longer you tolerate it the worse the patient does.
Fill the circle with people who add to your life and do not subtract from it. Every precious thing that you want out of life starts from believing that you possess an unstoppable drive to continuously strive and thrive. That idea begins with your circle of six.
Build your circle of six with these ideas in mind to change your life. Friends are the family you choose and they impact your health in tremendous ways. Do not undervalue this reality in your own life and recovery. Your spouse should be your best friend. If they are not you must reevaluate your own strategies.
I revalue myself daily by the music and artwork I put in my environment. This helps me trim my circle of six and cuting and pasting who should be in this position of my life. Many times only two seats in the counsel are filled at a time. I often joke with the people in my circle that my tribe has a revolving door. You cannot be good at everything so those other 12 eyes are huge in helping you thrive. Make sure those eyes are connected to people who you’d let pack your parachute before you jump out of a plane if you could not do it.
Ask yourself this today, “How do you experience value in your life?”
An elitist scientists might say, “ Creativity that satisfies and affirms your world view is entertainment and does not set a floor to your self worth. Creativity that challenges and disrupts your world view is art and it helps us see our value.” But then the creative will say, How one thinks work must challenge you to be considered art. I find Dali’s works satisfying because of the curiousity they create in me. It helps me revalue my character and my worth. That doesn’t make his work ”not art.” A fascinating aspect of art is how subjective it is. It turns out how we value ourselves is also wholly sunjective. What may challenge you may stimulate or relax another. Value, like time is also relative to th environment we allow around us. What resonates with you may produce the opposite or no effect for another because no two environments are equivalent.
Write like no one is reading your words or your work. When you do this, your authentic self will manifest and come to the surface. Whatever it takes to find the real you, don’t be daunted if the rest of the world looks on in shock when they read your work. Your words can be your art and they can be used to set your value.
When you fight yourself to discover the real you as you write, there is only one winner, YOU.
Value is always long-term proposition in life. I urge you to be so good at what you do and the services you provide to people that no other metric a human can think up will matter. You have to be all in for people to get them to the next level. Never settle yourself, and never let them settle. Try to teach people to avoid always seeking happiness or success on the road to optimal. I teach people that we create our happiness and success with choices we make about our life. Teach them to become people who seek results. Your goal as a leader is to become a person of value to your flock. Being valuable does not mean you need to be perfect in any sense. It is wise to be a diamond in the rough with a flaw than a pebble without any.
My circle only has mitochondriacs in it. Those are people who are “diamond like”. They are made of specks of carbon and dirt who just have learned how to handle stress and chaos extraordinarily well become lustrous with many facets who shine brightly in any light.
Value is premium you place on yourself and others. Value others and you value yourself. Valuing this way is self-replicating and will grow within you and emit from you. When you truly value others they will radiate value as well. Today, forget the prices of things and cherish the value of people.
Others value your time exactly as you do. If you value it, so will other people.
If you don’t have a plan for your week before it begins, you’ve planned to fail.
Leaders who value their time always start with a plan for the week before it begins.
Always have a plan for your week before other people plan it for you.
Spend 80% of your time with people who give you 80% of your results and stand back and be amazed at what happens. I use the filter of social media to figure out who that 20% is and I CUT THEM FAST. I do this to focus on who matters to see if they are circle of six material.
Regardless, if you haven’t decided ahead of time the kinds of people you’ll meet with, you’re sunk.
Sometimes we don’t choose our path or the people on it. The path and the people often choose us.
Your reaction to “these misfits” becomes the next big thing in your life. This has been an eye opening lesson I have pursued with a passion since 3/13/2019. Relentless chaos drives my passion now. You’ll come to realize sometimes you need a little chaos to get your adrenaline flowing and help you realize your potential.
What happened to me on that March day? It was the day I listened for the call of my destiny, and when it came to me, I decided to release those past plans back to the universe and follow my new uncharted passions. Mastery is the breeding ground of fresh, creative passion. Our greatest responsibility is to live a life that nourishes our highest truth.
I realized that day I was not my past. I am the warrior that rose above it to become the example of someone who didn’t just want to survive, but chose to thrive in creating the most beautiful last chapter of my life. I decided to go all in for me. I realized I really don’t have to subscribe to the life that had been written for me.
When you believe in yourself, in your innate abilities, and you LOVE YOURSELF, you begin to do and to think for yourself and your preservation. You know implicitly that anything is possible. The impossible even becomes easy. This internal drive is the fire in your gut cannot be extinguished by the people who suck the energy and reason from life. Become fully invested and commit to these beliefs and you will most assuredly meet with success no matter the odds you currently face.
I want to be driven, motivated, filled with passion, for good things, worthwhile things, things that will make a positive difference, and add value to the lives of others. Your passion can ignite many others’ pilot lights as well. When our candle is lit, sharing it does not diminish our flame one bit………..Go light someone up today.